tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post4438391494431708417..comments2023-10-23T00:04:35.356-04:00Comments on The Vault of Buncheness: ANOTHER FATHER'S DAYBunche (pop culture ronin)http://www.blogger.com/profile/11831085937894725459noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-71117605404488989212008-06-24T17:52:00.000-04:002008-06-24T17:52:00.000-04:00Bunche,You and I have discussed some of this befor...Bunche,<BR/>You and I have discussed some of this before, and I believe that we should grab some of uncle jose's depression juice and have it out again some night soon, as i am moving back to brooklyn and will be far more available for escapaderie (if that isn't a word, it should be). And manly bear hugs, i will be available for those too.<BR/>-mike (big)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-72888791639985461162008-06-17T16:26:00.000-04:002008-06-17T16:26:00.000-04:00I don't even know you and I love you!!!I don't even know you and I love you!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-63998996716119207122008-06-17T11:11:00.000-04:002008-06-17T11:11:00.000-04:00Hey Bunche-just read your fathers day post, and I'...Hey Bunche-<BR/><BR/>just read your fathers day post, and I'm writing to commiserate. <BR/>Father's Day always kind of gets me too. I haven't spoken to my dad <BR/>in at least 10 years. The last time i did was to congratulate him on <BR/>his marriage to his new wife; he asked me if we could see each other <BR/>in a pained voice, and I told him I wasn't sure that was a good idea. <BR/>He also told me about my new step brother and sister, and how the son <BR/>was the same age as me as he got my age wrong. I tried pretty hard <BR/>during high school to kind of reconnect with my dad, and realized he was going through a lot of his own shit and sort of gave up on us. <BR/>I'm not angry towards the guy, I just view our non relationship as <BR/>consequences of choices HE made. But saying that I'm not angry <BR/>doesn't mean I don't bear scars from not having a positive male role model when I was growing up.<BR/><BR/>Living with my mom as I currently am, I see a lot of traits in myself <BR/>that I absolutely hate that have come from her. I'm a chronic self <BR/>doubter who gives up on things instead of seeing them through. I <BR/>think a lot about what kind of person I might of been with a father behind me. That's not a knock on my mom, who put me and all my sibs through college as a single parent and never expected any of <BR/>us to pay a dime, but I definitely feel like my confidence and self <BR/>reliance would have been stronger with two parents. I mean, here I am <BR/>again, back at mom's when I couldn't hack it on my own. It took me forever to move out of this place, and here I am, back with mom, <BR/>seemingly unable to keep a temp job for even a few weeks. i think <BR/>about stuff like my father dying, his funeral, and if i have anything <BR/>to gain from his will. maybe he'll finally come through for me in death.<BR/><BR/>All of my friends are popping out kids like there's no tomorrow. My girlfriend wants us to have a kid, but everything I touch turns to shit. We're not even married, and ours is the longest most successful relationship in our family. I can barely take care of (or afford to take care of) myself, much less a kid. I feel like I'm doomed to become my father in a lot of ways.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I think very few people's lives unfold the way they envision <BR/>them. Mine certainly hasn't. It's not bad, but it's not what I <BR/>imagined. Life it seems is about 99% rolling with it. You're well <BR/>loved by a legion of friends, no small feat when you look at what <BR/>utter douchebags most people are these days.<BR/><BR/>Roll with it. I'm rolling along beside you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-65563088700383749632008-06-16T17:30:00.000-04:002008-06-16T17:30:00.000-04:00Bunche, there are very few people in this world I'...Bunche, there are very few people in this world I'm truly glad I know -- whom I feel truly lucky and blessed to have met. I don't see you much anymore -- although Lord knows, Jayne and I would very much like to -- but you are always in my thoughts. Always. You're an honest-to-God original in every sense of the word, and although this is probably of little consolation to you -- it doesn't create the father-son bond you crave and so richly deserve -- you're loved and cared for in ways I'm not sure even you fully know. I don't say this to be patronizing or out of some sort of obligation; I say it because it's absolute fact, and because the love you inspire and the kindness you foster simply by being around, in some ways, makes me incredibly envious. <BR/><BR/>I guess I'm just really proud to be able to call you a friend.Chezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06125538523345637439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-25856514770985436732008-06-16T12:45:00.000-04:002008-06-16T12:45:00.000-04:00It's great that you have health insurance now. Ple...It's great that you have health insurance now. Please take advantage of it and get bloodwork at least 3X/yr. Watch your BP and cholesterol. Just because the heart muscle's strong (which is great) doesn't eliminate the possibility of a stroke.<BR/><BR/>If your hospitalization was fate's "wake-up call" and you're ever feeling up to it, you may want to look into mentoring programs in your neighborhood. Any kid would be lucky to have a guy like you caring about them. There may even be a mini-Bunche, an bright, artistic, funny kid with no dad in the picture waiting for someone to relate to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-52822584382688291562008-06-16T11:19:00.000-04:002008-06-16T11:19:00.000-04:00But on the plus side, at least you still get a "li...But on the plus side, at least you still get a "lie-in" when you want... something I haven't enjoyed for six years now!<BR/><BR/>:)<BR/><BR/>Moving post, though, Bunche. Hang in there.Chris Westonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11985544401929303121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7415178.post-88957933661093934832008-06-15T23:46:00.000-04:002008-06-15T23:46:00.000-04:00*hugs*For what it's worth, you have friends - even...*hugs*<BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, you have friends - even in unexpected places - who value and love you. You may not had produced blood-offspring, but you inspire, entertain, enlighten and often keep sane an amazing number of people. Your insightfully humorous work and just fucking HUGE heart make this screwy world a hell of a lot better all 'round. Your "circle of influence" is bigger than you might believe, Bunche. And there are many "family men" who cannot say nearly as much. <BR/><BR/>*big manly hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com